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Kathy, TN Mom won`t eat or drink enough
Question Mom lives in a little guest house behind mine by herself. She is very independent & has always fixed her own breakfast & lunch. I keep her refrigerator stocked & cabinet full of easy to micro soups, etc. Usually we eat lunch together & I c . . .
Answer This can be a very challengig situation on you the primary caregiver as you appear to be frustrated and feel hopeless as well. Maybe it would be a good idea to have her evaluated by a professional such as a psycologist, nutritionist, geriatric nurse manag . . .
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Denise, TN 56 year old sister-in-law w/dementia and physcosis
Question I work full time at a great job; however, I recently received my 80 year old mother-in-law in my home because she has back and leg problems and lived in a townhome (physically challenged - mentally stable). Unable to climb stairs. Sister-in-law is 56 and . . .
Answer It sounds as if your plate is not just ful but overflowing. I suggest start by making an appt with your county social services dept to explore what assistance might be available to your family members.Also they can help you identify what programs in the a . . .
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C, FL Hostile family situation
Question Where can I find support on how to handle a hostile family situation regarding a family member with Dementia, a hostile sibling living there that has durable power of attorney that feels the caregiving has been "dumped" on them, resents family m . . .
Answer It is very common for the primary caregiver, in your case your sibling, to become resentful with the burdens of caregiving, In particular caring for one with dementia is extra demanding and exhausting. Therefore as difficult as it may be for you to dislik . . .
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Frank, NC How Poor Brian Center can Get?
Question Hello Clair, We placed our Dad (82) in Brian Center last Wednesday! From first day on all we have had is PROBLEMS! I don`t understand how Gaston County allows this place to stay open?? # 1 problem, No Employee wears a name badge? # 2 problem, It has taken . . .
Answer Hi Frank, I'm very sorry to hear about the poor attention your father has been receiving in the long-term care facility was recently move into. I suggest a meeting with the DON (Director of Nursing) right away to discuss your concerns. The focus shou . . .
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Samantha, MA Home Care for Dad
Question Hello, So my dad had a pretty large stroke a little over a year ago. Before that he was completely independent living alone. Now he is paralyzed on his right side and has global aphasia. He has come so far w being able to transfer using a sliding board an . . .
Answer Hiring a full time caregiver can be expensive but not impossible. Consult with social services at facility your father resides to evaluate Medicaid eligibility for help with paying for in-home care. If he is a veteran he might be eligible for some home ca . . .
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Viola, PA Nursing Home Owner Changes
Question Hi Clare, My mom`s nursing home`s sale was finalized recently. Aides and staff have been shifted, some have left for other opportunities. I see a difference in my mom`s dementia behavior. How can I relay to the current staff what she needs without causing . . .
Answer Hello Viola, Change is difficult for many of those with dementia so it is not surprising that she is experiencing this adjustment to new staff. It might be practical to request a staff meeting with all members of health team to basically get everyone &qu . . .
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Rose, WI Need HELP!
Question This is reference to my mother in law who is 87 years old suffering from dementia. She has been staying with the granddaughter/family in Las Vegas. A month ago she fell in the emergency room of a hospital, dislocated her shoulder and ended up in rehab for . . .
Answer I'm very sorry Rose for your frustrations with financing long term care. Initially I would assess whether your M-I-L is eligible for Medicaid as this federal insurance program can compensate some home care costs. As for evaluating the family caregiver . . .
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Alexandra, NY Home Care for person with Parkinson`s
Question My father-in-law has Parkinson`s and it is becoming more and more difficult to leave him home alone. What are the different options available to my mother -in- law that would allow her to keep him at home. They live in Charles City Iowa. He was in the mil . . .
Answer As a veteran your father in law is likely to be eligible for some in home care benefits. Veteran Aid and Attendance benefit provides money to those who need assistance performing everyday tasks. This extra monthly pension is use . . .
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Maureen, GA Assisted living accepted mom, then rejected.
Question My mom & dad (both 91) were living together in a personal care home. I received notice that my mother required a higher level of care than they could provide. I wanted to keep them together. I searched for a new facility. They were visited & evalu . . .
Answer This is a very disturbing mistake on the part of the facility who admitted your mother and father after their own evaluation was done. Residents and their families have advocates to support them when long term care issues arise to help resolve problems.Th . . .
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Wanda, TX Family in need in Oakland California
Question ```````````````````````````````````````````````````My brother in law and his wife live in Oakland California. My husband and I moved their mother here to Texas with us last September to take care of her. She is now in a 24 hour care facility. While she wa . . .
Answer Due to your brother's extreme health complications fueled by the long-distance and difficult communication issues, it might be sensible to hire a care manager. A care manager has a medical or social work background and can oversee his medical needs an . . .
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