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Naoma, VA Long Term Care for Mother with Cancer
Question My mother is 86 and has breast cancer. She has gotten to the point where it seems that her receiving home care is not enough. My family is trying to make a decision about a nursing home or assisted living. Mom cannot cook for herself, clean, can barely ba . . .
Answer Start by planning for a new residence where she will not have to relocate once she gets settled. Some facilities offer both assisted living and skilled care should her condition require such. Also consider and speak to her physician about hospice as these . . .
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Scott, TX Lifting An Elderly Person
Question My mother helps her friend with cancer. Her friend is terminal and in the last stages. She is very weak and sometimes need help to chair etc. She also has brittle bones. Is there a guide to lifting patients from the floor?
Answer Not sure what you mean "from the floor" but as far as transferring assistance suggest at minimum maybe a transfer gait belt for safety reasons. She probably needs some type of walker as well if does not already have. . . .
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cory, CA Sister not parent with stage four cancer
Question My sister is in a nursing home in Pasdena, CA. She is 53 years. I want to take her to her home to fulfill her wish. I have applied for state and federal assistence. But the wait is to long. I am her DPA. Private home care would cost me over 4500 a month, . . .
Answer Ask her physician if he will make a Hospice referral as this is an excellent program for those with end stage illnesses. This program is covered by insurance and will usually help out regardless of financial status or coverage. . . .
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frank, NY Father with lung cancer
Question we have recently reconnected with our father who has be out of our lives for many years. he has lung cancer and was given 6 to 9 months, he is currently in a health care facility for the homeless, we would like to put him somewhere nicer,with better care . . .
Answer Check for Hospice in your area as might be a good option since they are best known for providing excellent care for patients with end stage illnesses. . . .
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Linda, NC PLEASE ADVISE
Question CLARE, MY HUSBAND HAS BEEN IN CAROLINA MEDICAL FOR APPROXIMATELY 4 WEEKS. HE IS TERMINAL 1)RECENT HEMORRHAGE OF BRAIN CAUSED BY SEIZURE; 2)FAILURE OF LIVER - MELD AT 15. HE IS "COMFORT CARE" STATUS. MY HUSBAND IS CURRENTLY ON MORPHINE PATCHES AND ORAL DRO . . .
Answer Contact your State long-term care ombudsman as this is your advocate for patients and families in difficult situations. I am so very sorry about your husband’s illness. North Carolina Sharon Wilder State LTC Ombudsman NC Division of Aging & Adult . . .
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Sabrina, MD Nursing homes with in house dialysis
Question My dad is in need of a nursing home that offers in house dialysis.He is being discharged from Southern Md Hospital but is unable to live alone because he has early demintia and does not take his medication properly.He also has been missing is dialysis app . . .
Answer Use our database to locate skilled facilities in this area nd then contact about dialysis as some offer in-house and others transport out to appts as well. . . .
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John, NJ Preparing for one`s death at home
Question My father has just returned from finishing rehab after a colon resection to remove a tumor the size of a grapefruit. Surprisingly, they were able to resect without the need of a colostomy. The colon cancer had spread to the liver and after closer inspect . . .
Answer John, I definitely would suggest contacting Hospice and allow them to help you make all the necessary care arrangements.They are an excellent organization and their expertise will be most useful to your family at this difficult time. Find the info regard . . .
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Long, KS Life-Machine Dependence
Question We`re often asked to sign an agreement to let my elderly father die in case he stope breathing. What if I`d to keep him alive even on a breathing of life-machine, and to hope for miracles someday? The question is, will he be transferred to some specialize . . .
Answer Mr. Long, This is the family’s decision about making your father a "No Code" status and should be thoughtfully considered. Consult with his doctors and other members of the health team to help you with this decision but ultimately the final one is . . .
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